Bridging the Gap

"Get Out the Group Chat" welcomes Bridget Otts, injecting vibrant energy into the show's second season. With laughter in the air, they dive deep into the intricacies of diversity within friendships, sharing personal stories and tips for navigating cultural nuances. Wrapping up with a heartfelt discussion on cross-cultural relationships, the episode highlights the value of genuine allyship and intentional inclusion in strengthening bonds within our diverse community, echoing the spirit of Black Friends Forever.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

One, two, three, four. Get your friends about the group chat, group chat, group chat where you pass what's in the air, air, air, a little sharp. Definitely don't like it.

Speaker 2: 0:15

Stump that devil, stump that devil oh well, oh well, oh wow, oh, you had it longer than you. You did, you did, you did Good job. Welcome back to Get Out the Group Chat.

Speaker 1: 0:31

I am Tanzania Black, I am Shavonna Marie and today we have a very special guest for a very special episode. I have my friend of 10 plus years, bridget Ott, in the house. Hey Bridget, hi Bridget, how does it house?

Speaker 3: 0:45

Hey, Bridget Hi.

Speaker 1: 0:47

Bridget, how does it feel to be on?

Speaker 3: 0:48

Get Out of the Group Chat podcast. It's actually, I feel, honored because they've been doing this little podcast forever and they finally, finally finally, first of all, bridget was out of the country last time.

Speaker 2: 0:59

I'm just lying.

Speaker 3: 1:00

She went out of the country.

Speaker 1: 1:01

Anyway, traveling Can pretend, okay, she was out of the country, where you at Traveling Can pretend Okay, she was out of the country, guys Working. So that's why she couldn't make it to the first season, right?

Speaker 3: 1:10

right so excited.

Speaker 1: 1:11

So before we get into the topics for today, we're going to play a game.

Speaker 2: 1:15

Yes, bridget, are you ready for who knows their bestie?

Speaker 1: 1:19

Who know your bestie? Do you know her or not? Do you know your bestie? Do you know?

Speaker 2: 1:22

her or not. So we're going to have you call you can call up your friend, your bestie, okay, and what we're going to do is they have three questions to answer, okay, but they only have to get two right so you can see if you win the BFF trophy at the end of the season, okay, so call up your bestie, call, call up your bestie.

Speaker 3: 1:48

Call your bestie, call your bestie, she's also working she's working as well. I don't know, hi margaret. Uh, are you busy, am I busy?

Speaker 2: 2:00

I'm always busy, I'll make some time for you.

Speaker 3: 2:03

Oh, thank you. So they have. So I'm here on the Get Out of the Group chat. I'm sorry, guys Podcast and they have a couple of questions to ask you about me. Are we live?

Speaker 2: 2:16

Yes.

Speaker 3: 2:17

Oh man, so I'm going to be famous? Yes, I can quit my job.

Speaker 2: 2:24

Don't quit just yet. Okay, All right, so.

Speaker 3: 2:28

Let me answer the questions correctly.

Speaker 2: 2:30

Okay. So the first question is what is Bridget's favorite color?

Speaker 3: 2:36

Ooh, Hmm, I think it's pretty easy. I'm going to go with black. What's your favorite color? It's black or nude, so yeah, oh, okay.

Speaker 2: 2:46

Okay, she got one. All easy, I'm going to go with black. What's your favorite color? It's black or nude. So, yeah, okay, okay, she got one. She got one. All right, I'm really nervous. All right, what is her favorite food?

Speaker 3: 2:56

Oh my gosh, oh my gosh. Well, I would go with cookout. The restaurant called Cookout. Oh my gosh, that's a good one, okay, so okay, that's a good one um oh, I forgot about cookout. She's like I love their quesadillas she's right, okay, she's right.

Speaker 2: 3:16

So it was mexican. So quesadillas with mexican yeah, we'll take that and then the last one is what's her favorite sport team currently?

Speaker 3: 3:25

oh, it's the easiest thing I've ever been asked in my life. That's gonna be the university of houston's men's basketball team number 13 joan robertson, I'm gonna get with that question well, you got all three right.

Speaker 2: 3:43

Thank you so much much. Margaret for knowing your bestie Did she win a prize. So you win a prize, but Margaret will get you season three. Okay, Okay, that sounds great.

Speaker 3: 3:54

Your friendship will be my prize. Right, right, all right. Thank you, all right. Thanks, margaret. Bye, bye, all right.

Speaker 2: 4:04

So that means Margaret knows her best. So let's go ahead and get into today's episode, which is diversity in friendship so I'm gonna ask you, ladies, how have y'all ever been like in a group setting whether it was all maybe white or black, like you coming in as the, I guess, minority in a sense? Have y'all ever had that situation going on?

Speaker 1: 4:30

it is the most scary experience ever for me or it was really, really scary when I was a kid.

Speaker 1: 4:35

um, I feel like as a kid I could just be quiet, because I typically was quiet, and that's just kind of how I navigated it or navigated that situation. As an adult, because of all the things that you know I've been through as an adult with this country, I am very like hesitant and just kind of cautious, and I can be very quiet because I don't know what to expect. I might get, if it's an all white atmosphere, I might get a group of people who like absolutely love black people, and then the truth is I might be in a room and it might be mixed or it might be just completely against me.

Speaker 1: 5:06

So I take the very reserved route to kind of just as a as a protective measure. So, you protect yourself, okay, what?

Speaker 3: 5:13

about you? Have you Um, of course? Yes, I mean okay.

Speaker 1: 5:22

Caucasian and our friend group of all black people. We will accept more, but I mean she's the only one that you know, maybe an Asian and Indian we you know we would love a little bit more diversity.

Speaker 3: 5:32

So yeah, coming into it. No, it was easy. I feel like making friends, I feel like you're also a high key extrovert as well.

Speaker 3: 5:42

I feel like the the challenges came later. I feel like you're also a high key extrovert as well. I feel like the um, the challenges came later. Okay, once you really start to get to know people, once you really start to do life with that person and like to cultivate those relationships, that's when I feel like it it kind of got hard Gotcha, so not like coming in. Yeah, yeah, okay. What about you, shpana?

Speaker 2: 6:00

Um, I think once again, like as a kid, you know it was just. You know where we live, you know upstate is like you got different cultures all around. So it was white, black, indian, puerto Rican, it was just all types. So I think certain groups were easier.

Speaker 1: 6:19

I feel like Than others yeah.

Speaker 2: 6:21

I feel like like mixing with like the puerto ricans, like, because my dad did, uh, softball and I love softball and so it was like it was an easier vibe, more than like, um, I guess, the caucasians in a sense. Only because it was like I don't think they understood, especially back then, I can think now it's maybe a little bit easier, but they didn't understand our culture. So me coming in to your group and I'm flaming you or drilling you, whatever, like that's like joking or whatever, I don't know what terms y'all use, but, um, I think they took it as bullying for sure, because, it's like really slick bullying, but that is a part of black culture.

Speaker 1: 6:57

But that's black culture and it's kind of accepted there, whereas other cultures don't accept it right and so it was almost like oh she me, and I'm like I'm getting suspended for stupid stuff.

Speaker 2: 7:07

Yes, like I got ex-mail from one school, but one private school. Yeah, it was just like it's not to me. I don't think you're flaming the white people.

Speaker 3: 7:15

But I don't care if you flame me back. That's part of it.

Speaker 2: 7:18

That's part of our little culture. You know we're playing.

Speaker 1: 7:25

She's just not real sally. You know what. You know? What's crazy is that I grew up as a kid in like a very multi, like multicultural school. Yeah, so the last school before I moved to mississippi it was all white school and there was like a few blacks. Yeah, well, when I went to the high school that I went to, it was all black with maybe a few minorities and, honestly, like the transit, like you would think I would be super comfortable because I am now with, like black people, but it was very stressful. Wow, like northern black and southern black at that time was a different type of black and the person I am today like very straightforward, like I mean what I say, like I have an opinion, like I know my own thoughts did not exist in high school, so I was super quiet and it was just it was a lot dealing with them.

Speaker 3: 8:09

Like I go to, school like white people.

Speaker 1: 8:11

Where I was in Michigan, we was wearing they were wearing Aeropostale American.

Speaker 2: 8:14

Eagle.

Speaker 1: 8:14

It was very simple, that was it at that time, in that era, I got to them they're wearing the Jordans. You, why do we have on two polos?

Speaker 2: 8:24

I wish you would wear USps there was a certain way you had to be in order to be

Speaker 1: 8:28

accepted now one of the benefits is that I did like go straight into like sports, so I got like kind of instant friends or instant community, but it was. It was a lot going to school with a bunch of black people, yeah, and these are the black people that they want to fight, and I had a problem fighting. You know, right, it's hauling us a little bit but I'm just like Ooh, yeah, that's a whole new world.

Speaker 1: 8:48

It's a whole new place. I never know. I'm used to going to school white people, black people, indians, like all of the whole earth was in my school. You know experiences, so being in that one was hard, all right. So let's get a little bit deeper into, like, our friend group, our friendship, and I'm pretty sure that people want to know. You know some of the difficulties that we have faced, being friends of different cultures living in the United States of America. Um, so what's one thing that's been difficult for you to navigate, or you too, shay, yeah, like maybe be in friendship with her or whatever your other friend groups because you have your friends with people of other cultures.

Speaker 2: 9:25

I would say just knowing. The difficulty probably is like maybe knowing what to say or how to say it, knowing what can offend somebody which you're probably really not trying to.

Speaker 2: 9:42

But if somebody has told you like, hey, that's probably like offensive to me, me, and I guess that's the whole point of getting to know people in your friend group, for real in general yeah because if you don't know what boundaries and what things you can watch or do around them, you know or say around them um, you know, you got to be careful because I remember, I remember like the n-word was strong in my life. I mean I think I've stopped a little bit, but I don't know if Bridget used to try to say not to say it around her. So it's like you have to understand now, like okay let me stop using it.

Speaker 2: 10:14

Explain why I said don't say it around me. Yeah Well, so she wouldn't end up saying it, because if you say it a bunch of times around somebody, they're going to pick up that lingo.

Speaker 1: 10:23

And yeah, we don't want to create languages.

Speaker 2: 10:24

Yeah. And you don't want to do that and so people not knowing hey, you know, you're around a lot of black people and she just randomly said somebody might be like nah, that's not cool, you know what I mean. And so that's why, like I had to like stop saying it.

Speaker 1: 10:39

I'm still around this, yeah, still around and saying nigga, please, good job, shay, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2: 10:45

So I try to respect that, because I never I know how society is and I would never want them to deem her or make it look like that's what she's about and she's not. It's just she was hearing it too much.

Speaker 1: 10:58

I want to say this too I think the reason why, in general, people don't do well in friendships is because they think that it's just supposed to be easy and it's just fun and games, and there is no way that you could do friendships with people of the same culture or different cultures without there being some type of issues, because both of us could have grown up in mississippi, but we still have two different experiences which gives us two different opinions.

Speaker 1: 11:22

So it's always going to be a lot of work when you're friends with people, and I do think culture is one of those things that can make it more difficult, but it doesn't matter what it is. It's always going to be hard to do friendships, and if yours is easy and y'all ain't never getting into it, y'all ain't never having issues. I don't mean like disrespectful argument but if there's never any complications, then something may be wrong there and you might not really be going deep in your friendships and truly getting to know someone.

Speaker 2: 11:46

Have y'all ever had any?

Speaker 1: 11:48

Now she's saying have y'all ever had any? I know, I know.

Speaker 2: 11:52

I just want y'all to know the situation. So I'm going to be Dr Phil right now. So have y'all had any you know tension, any you know situations to come up with? Diversity, yes, okay.

Speaker 3: 12:07

But I think it's because Tana and I are really close, yep, and we care about I want to preface this we care about our friendship, yeah, and because we do come from different cultures, yeah, um, trying to learn that culture, trying to understand each other, can be very difficult at times. Yeah, I know there are times where, um there's been certain I can't even honestly, sometimes I can't even bring them up because I've already forgot about them.

Speaker 2: 12:36

But um I will. I will bring up one to, to maybe you, you know, come back in. I think it was the movie came out, I think, and there was a situation oh, okay, you can, you can.

Speaker 3: 12:51

Yeah, you can, okay, oh you brought that.

Speaker 1: 12:53

Was y'all bringing it up?

Speaker 3: 12:54

Yeah, so we need to explain it. Yeah, oh, okay, so I'll let you start and I'll jump in, jump in jump in.

Speaker 1: 12:59

So I'm sure by now, if you've been watching the podcast, I have this thing where, like, movies come out and I be wanting to dress up like we're going to the movie premiere because really I'm I'm really manifesting our future that we will be actually being able to dress up to go to movie premieres.

Speaker 1: 13:11

Yeah, right, so but what I do with my friends is is that I will. You know, specifically Black Panther. When the first one came out, everybody, um, I had them to dress up like I think we did african patterns. Um, the next day, I don't know, we, like you, just dressed up in general or something to kind of just celebrate just the beauty in that movie and what it meant for us as black people.

Speaker 1: 13:32

When wakanda came out, I gave my friends about three, four months prep, because we're gonna get all the things we're wearing, all that are white, we are taking the photos, we're running cameras, we're getting locations, we're doing a whole nine yards, and so, of course, I am sending this out into all of my friends, which also included bridget. And so, in general, this is my personality in general. Like you, showing up for the things that I invite you for, yeah, means the world to me, and when you don't, I am getting healed from this. When people don't, it like can break my soul. And so bridget didn't participate in Wakanda forever, and then I'll let her explain her reasoning so I get the message and I'm like cool, like I love this for them.

Speaker 3: 14:12

But there's a part of me that really feels like because I'm white, I don't fit and so I didn't want to be in the place of feeling left out. So I just said I'm not going to go, like I made the choice, I took control of that situation. I feel like in my mind I took control and it's like okay, I'm just going to let them have this, I'm cool with it, like, and we can move forward. Now, tan being Tan, she, she, it hurts her feelings, right. And so, uh, this was brought up, I think, actually kind of recently though, the reason behind it all but I just didn't want to put myself in a position to feel left out.

Speaker 3: 14:57

So when you were taking the photos, like I wouldn't fit in those photos because I guess I would say I would completely disagree, because we know what our friendship is so to me of course it was an.

Speaker 1: 15:11

Is it homage? Yeah, it was an homage to the movie that we were going to see. Um, but, like, even in the movie itself, there were white people who were allies to a cop, and so to me that photo you being in it would have represented that allyship, so do you feel like it's appropriate to the world that we're not that's why you don't.

Speaker 3: 15:31

Well, part of me didn't want to, because I think there's a fine line and it's still not fully defined of what cultural appropriation is. So anything that is potentially there, I want to stay away from it.

Speaker 2: 15:46

So we need to break the. We need to break that, then let's be the group to break that.

Speaker 1: 15:51

I agree, I think, because we know what our friendship is Correct, so we know what's going on in the world, we know what people think about black people, we know what people think about white people, but at the end of the day, though my color matters, though my culture matters, tanzania black is still an individual, and so is Bridget Otts.

Speaker 3: 16:08

You know what I'm saying you are a person who matters.

Speaker 1: 16:10

You have a personality, you have interests, you have likes and dislikes. Like you, are not just the culture you grew up in, you're not the family you're connected to, and so I think, when I think about those major like photos or moments, it's just like we could have lost you a few weeks ago and you wouldn't have been in that photo.

Speaker 1: 16:28

Right, and though the world matters and their opinion matters about, I guess black or white, like Bridget Otts matters to me, and having a representation of the fact that like so to me it's like you not showing up is like are you not proud to be friends with me?

Speaker 3: 16:45

Are you not proud to be connected?

Speaker 1: 16:47

to a group of black people who are amazing.

Speaker 2: 16:49

You know what I'm saying. Like yeah. So I think if your heart is right, I think it's fine, like in any friend group, and we'll fight the world Like I have no problem with fighting the world.

Speaker 3: 16:58

I asked this white woman to be in this photo with us. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1: 17:02

Like, if you're going to let love, if you either go love black people or you're not, and so I'm not going to push you to the side. Like we, the world wanted white people to march, did they not? They wanted them out there. They want white people to speak up for us. They want white people to help change the. I love your culture and I love you too.

Speaker 2: 17:23

Yeah, yeah, that's good. I think that people just need to know people's hearts, in whatever cultural aspect it is, as long as you're doing it for the heart, the right heart, and you're not doing it for a photo op just to be like, hey, I got these you know like. I feel like it's the intention behind it. You know what I mean and, if your attention is correct, go and support your different cultures. You know what I mean, but if it's not, then, yeah, stay out.

Speaker 2: 17:48

You know what I mean, because then, that ain't cool either, cause then you're going to get, they're going to talk about you. You know what I mean. So I feel like, if your heart and I know it's like it's hard because you don't know how to navigate you what people gonna say cuz we don't know cuz. Obviously you know how we are. Everything goes on social media. I know I get what your your reservation.

Speaker 1: 18:09

You can, you know me, I'm saying it's the same thing as making a decision to date someone of a different race, like there is a whole slew of problems that comes with it. In the same way as posting that photo, it could have very much went viral. And now here we are, fighting the world against what they think it meant or what they think we were doing or think you were doing.

Speaker 2: 18:27

You know what I'm saying, so I get it, you know. Yeah, but like I said, I think you know. As long as you have your right intention, you will be fine.

Speaker 3: 18:36

Um, I'm definitely not that girl, that girl on tiktok from atlanta remember that girl that was acting black.

Speaker 2: 18:43

Yeah, she's like. I'm from Atlanta, you know people think I'm black. And she's like white and they're like girl, stop, yeah, I hear that now what you saying she's yeah.

Speaker 3: 18:53

Ridiculous.

Speaker 2: 18:54

And I don't. I've never seen you do that, or so I feel like no, actually you don't act black actually you don't act.

Speaker 1: 19:03

Black yeah, no, no, she got black tendencies, she'd be late I almost called it a southern thing, but you from the north and you was all the ways late she was. On top of that, though she was, I was so proud of her what are some tips that you would give to somebody who was interested in being in a more diverse um relationship where they want to be friends with a black person or a white person or asian person or indian person or whatever.

Speaker 3: 19:22

I think it's uh incredibly want to be friends with a black person or a white person or Asian person or Indian person or whatever. I think it's uh incredibly important to be open to hearing the cultural differences and and embracing them, um, also really deciding if it's what you want, because I'm going to tell you this is it. It can be very difficult, especially when you cherish those friendships. But, I've always been one to say that if, if it isn't like fought for, it's not worth it Like you know that be.

Speaker 3: 19:55

Those difficult situations always make a friendship deeper or like stronger. Make a friendship deeper or like stronger. Yeah, and because I know that at the end of the day, like when I was on my deathbed, that my friends were there for me and it didn't matter what color I was, it didn't matter what my culture was Like. They were there making sure I was okay. They, they like literally scheduled time out, like to sit with me. So, um, I think it's just very you have to be intentional, but you also have to be, um, willing to talk about the hard stuff.

Speaker 2: 20:36

Um, honestly, it's, it's kind of like a relationship you have to like a relationship, you have to literally be willing to, to, to be in, be in it for the long haul.

Speaker 3: 20:45

Um, because we could say the first, like I want to say, situation that came up about race. We could have just gave up and said I don't want this, but because we kind of were like no, we we've been friends and we want to continue being friends and I enjoy our friendship you have to have that conversation, you have to literally sit there and cry. Sometimes you have to sit there and disagree, agree to disagree. You know yeah um, and it doesn't mean that I hate you if I don't agree with you.

Speaker 2: 21:13

I love oh, that was a good one. Agree to disagree, because sometimes you're not probably going to agree on everything. You know what I mean. But am I going to stop getting out? Am I going to get out that group chat just because of that situation? Yeah, nah, we gonna work some stuff out, we agree to. Hey, maybe I'm not gonna do this certain thing with you. Yeah, because that's just not me. You know what I mean. So, yeah, I think yeah, that's great.

Speaker 1: 21:35

I think it goes goes back to really treating friendship not as just some little fun thing, but as an an actual relationship. And when you're in relationship, whether it be with God, a friend, a family member, it's always, you're always learning. And so, when you're entering into this, be open to learning, learning a new culture, learning this person. Like you may have been friends with one black girl, but this black girl will not be just like this black girl so being open to learning people and understanding don't assume and just truly making it your goal to understand who that person truly is and where they come from and be willing to fight

Speaker 3: 22:15

because, I'll fight somebody.

Speaker 1: 22:18

We had a really interesting situation a while back at the fitness center, where the people was acting a fool with us and wait, where was I with you when you had?

Speaker 3: 22:26

I wasn't there. I wasn't there that time.

Speaker 1: 22:28

I don't think I I think everybody need to be. You need to have you some white friends, not to use them. Of course, be friends with them for real, but there are I'm not gonna act like there ain't no benefits to being friends with someone who is white she has white privilege and we're going to utilize it in the situations. We need to utilize it to get the things we need to get. That's hilarious.

Speaker 1: 22:46

I feel like sometimes I even feel safer going into some situations or in some rooms because I'm with her, like you know what I'm saying. Like because I'm like she's going to understand the language, she's going to know what they mean, she's going to know what to me and was like, oh my goodness, your hair is fun. Like and I'm just like I knew it felt wrong with being able to talk to bruce, like what does this mean? Because then one girl said this and I don't want to miscommunicate and her able to like explain it to me so that I you know.

Speaker 3: 23:12

yeah sometimes they mean shade now. But oh no, shoot you guys to hold me back, I'm just gonna go take it, take her out from the back. You know um but, but then other times, I think you know, and I think too, I think some people mean well, they just don't know how to articulate it yeah, they mean well, and they're trying, but either they're trying too hard you know, because some people really want to because they don't have access Like I had access to make friends.

Speaker 1: 23:40

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 23:48

They don't have the access to make that, and so they overcompensate because, they actually do want it.

Speaker 2: 23:54

And so.

Speaker 3: 23:54

I think sometimes we need to be more.

Speaker 2: 23:56

I say we sorry, we need to be more open to making friends of different cultures. Not actually the ones trying, but accepting that person trying Because they don't have the proximity to the people they even understand. I like that. Yeah, okay, yeah, that's good.

Speaker 1: 24:12

All right. So what would be some tips that you would give to someone both of you like, uh, someone white who wants to be friends with you as a black girl, or somebody black who wants to be friends with you as a white girl, what kind of like? What are some things they could do to kind of get in with you?

Speaker 2: 24:25

um, I would say, learn the culture in a sense, um, learn the certain things that I do is not really offensive.

Speaker 3: 24:33

Um, you know she's not bullying, you right? I'm not.

Speaker 2: 24:36

Yes, I am not bullying you, it's just, she's just a flame.

Speaker 2: 24:40

Yes, and so just learning the culture before trying to enter in that space, just so you can know a little bit, and then, um, kind of just gradually, you know, see how that person do they want you to act a certain way, not act because you should always be yourself, but don't try to overcompensate, I guess. Sometimes, I think, when people overcompensate of that culture, it's like eh like, take a it's cringy, yeah, it's cringy, yeah, that's the word, it's cringy. And so it's like let's not do that, you know. But I do like for people to understand our culture, but you don't have to overcompensate in that culture.

Speaker 3: 25:19

But yeah, that's so. So from my experience, black culture has different veins and not everybody's the same.

Speaker 2: 25:28

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 25:29

So I think maybe just the basics Would that be OK. Yeah, that makes sense, because I didn't learn some things until I was really friends like with y'all so yeah um, you know, just the normal basics of yeah, okay, so what would?

Speaker 1: 25:44

if I'm black, how am I gonna get in with a white person?

Speaker 3: 25:46

so I think I don't know, and it's hard for me because I feel like I'm very open to make friends in general so I'm always like cool, I'll probably make friends and I shouldn't.

Speaker 3: 25:57

I'll be honest, I probably I'm probably that person that has a whole bunch of acquaintances, but I shouldn't be in the group chat. But I think just being friendly I mean friendly is something across the board and that we could be for all, like races and cultures and that sort of thing. Just being friendly is where it starts, because Tam was super friendly back then not back then she ain't friendly, no more, she's the mean.

Speaker 2: 26:31

So this Tam was super friendly back then. Not back then. She ain't friendly no more. Whatever child.

Speaker 1: 26:34

So this next portion is our friendship stories, where we're going to give you a story and then you got to let us know in the comments if this person should get out of the group chat or if they should stay inside of the group chat. Okay, so let me know your thoughts. I have a friend who always puts me down and I put up with it because, honestly, I really don't know why. I would say that she's definitely not the worst. We've had some great times, but it feels like every opportunity she has to put me down, she takes it. I ask her to stop and she always tells me that I'm being too sensitive.

Speaker 2: 27:03

Wow, because I'm a jokester and so you know I do that, but I don't think at the expense of somebody's. Like health, mental health, but whatever it's called. Like, if you tell me, or Bridget tell me. Like, hey, shay, like, are you really?

Speaker 1: 27:21

Cause. Remember we had a friend, whoever they told, to pass on us Cause they said we was uh, we was doing jokes, and this person's also black, so it didn't want a different culture and she felt like we were being too rough with her.

Speaker 3: 27:38

And to this day day, you still the same rough um, but I think it's or we'll joke and be like you know, we can't, we can't, we can't joke with it.

Speaker 2: 27:43

Right too sensitive? Yeah, so I think I'll. It depends on the subject too, and I think it's maybe because the subject was black. I think it was like girl, you used to this and she's not. She wasn't not knowing that she grew up on Dump Slam, but no, not knowing she. She was. You know more. She had a different culture, a different she had a different experience.

Speaker 1: 28:06

She grew up different so you was like get out of that group chat or stay in the group chat.

Speaker 2: 28:12

I might have to ease my way out. If I keep telling the person I think I will ease my way out because, yeah, I will probably, I'll probably get out. What about you?

Speaker 3: 28:22

after a conversation after you said it multiple times hey, that hurts my feelings. Yeah, then I'm gonna have to get loud. That hurts my feelings. And then I'm probably have to exit myself because I probably do something I'm not supposed to do.

Speaker 2: 28:33

So I mean I would say, make sure, sit down with you know, even the Bible say that you know. Sit down, and if you're not getting the respect that you need and she's not right, please respect my boundary. So if you this is really a boundary for you, like, talk to her with somebody else, um, and after that, if she really don't change, then yeah, ease yourself out that group chat yeah, well, that was good well. Bridget, thank you for joining us can you?

Speaker 3: 29:03

thank you. Let people know where they can find you if they want to ask you some questions, talk to you. Where can they find you on social media um so I'm on Instagram, bridget Nicole six, and then facebook.

Speaker 2: 29:14

My name bridget knots she booked, she booked events, planned events and stuff like that.

Speaker 1: 29:19

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Speaker 1: 29:51

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Speaker 2: 30:04

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Speaker 1: 30:15

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